访958城市频道播音人 — 五名子女的快乐爸爸 Capital 95.8FM DJ Di Cong: Happiness comes in 5

Di Cong: Happiness comes in 5

Mr On Teck Chon, better known as DJ Di Cong from Capital 95.8FM, never fails to surprise people when he tells them that he is a proud father of five. This puts Di Cong way ahead of the pack, bearing in mind Singapore’s national fertility rate of 1.2 (2011 statistics).

Love multiplies
Like most other married couples, the 42-year-old DJ and his childhood sweetheart Gui Feng, 39, decided they would have just one child when they tied the knot 17 years ago. However, when their only daughter, at age seven, said that she was lonely as an only child; they relented and had number two, when she was nine.

The age gap between the two children prompted them to have number three so that the younger one could enjoy a playmate in her growing years. Thereafter, they decided to have number four because of concerns that the three may not get along well enough.

“Number five was a pleasant surprise, who brought us much joy as well!” Di Cong quips.

A Simple Life
The On household is dual income, stays in a HDB flat like 80% of Singaporeans, has a domestic helper and drives a Toyota Wish. Make no mistake about it, they are our typical middle class household.  Given the high cost of living in this city state, how does our DJ cope?

“The only way is to work doubly hard and to maintain a simple lifestyle.” Di Cong shares. He reaches his office at seven in the morning after sending the kids to school, and arrives home to put the children to bed. His day is a long one, of on-air program production, planning, meetings and keeping tabs on international media cable programs.

He sleeps only five-and-a-half hours each night.

Di Cong and his wife hardly go on dates anymore, so that they can spend that money on necessities like groceries. In the bid to save money, the family also does not travel by air for their holidays.

Worthwhile Rewards
Despite the limited spending power, the intangible rewards of parenthood is what keeps Di Cong going. The voices of his many children calling him “Daddy, please eat” before every meal, bring unspeakable joy to his heart and makes it worthwhile.

The On children are trained, from the age of 2, to be self-reliant and independent, washing up after themselves and their own dishes after meals.

To Di Cong, the greatest reward of parenthood is in teaching his children to be self-reliant, to love others and to discover their personal missions in life.

For this DJ, being there for them and preparing them to face the uphill challenges in their lives; is the most meaningful thing a father can do for his children.

The joy and well being so evident in this household is a testament to Di Cong’s wisdom as a father, and his love for his wife and children.


五名子女的快乐爸爸

王家全家福。左起:王宇开(5岁)、王芯(6岁)、王宇川(3个月)、王帝聪(42岁)、林桂妦(39岁)、王宇艾(4岁)及王暄(15岁)。

膝下承欢,人间极乐

资讯电台主播王帝聪,以厚重嘹亮的嗓子、稳重又不失热情的风格闻名。新闻时事工作步伐急促,有谁能料到,他竟是育有五名子女的超级老爸!
新加坡去年生育率下降到1.2。越来越多年轻人选择不结婚,或结婚后不生孩子。除了价值观改变外,更直接的原因是岛国生活压力沉重。到底是什么力量,让他有勇气在岛国生育,而且一生就是五个?

爱的延续

现年四十二岁的王帝聪回顾,二十五岁那年与青梅竹马的妻子林桂妦结婚时,两人原本计划只生一个。所以,婚后两年生了女儿,两人就把所有的心思放在她身上,灌溉了父母所有的爱。没想到女儿七岁那年,竟告诉父母她感觉寂寞,希望父母为她带来弟妹。

王帝聪说,“应老大的要求,我们隔九年生老二。过后,担心两人岁数差太远玩不起来,生老三。接着,又想三人不一定合得来,所以决定生老四。而老五呢,哈哈,纯属意外!”结果,王帝聪夫妻今天有五名子女承欢膝下。

开源节流,简朴生活

妈妈带着老二、老三、老四烘制蛋糕作为周末早点,其乐无穷。

妈妈带着老二、老三、老四烘制蛋糕作为周末早点,其乐无穷。

与百分之八十的国人一样,王帝聪住的是政府组屋,开的是日产车,是个典型的中产阶级。新加坡生活消费水平高,要养活一家七口,他是怎么熬过来的?

王帝聪说:唯有努力工作。他每天一早上送孩子上学,七点到电台广播、开拓新网络、约见嘉宾等。下班回家后看孩子入眠,他还要留意时事及人文节目,平均睡眠只有五个半小时。此外,夫妻俩也极少出外约会,更不要说带太太或家人搭飞机出国旅行了。
不过,王帝聪还是认为这是值得的。简单的乐趣来自吃饭前听四个孩子喊:“爸爸,吃饭!” 虽工作忙碌,家事大多由太太打理。但王帝聪绝不是一个失职的爸爸。他以教养儿女为乐。王家子女训练有素,两岁起就开始学习自己吃饭,甚至洗刷自己的碗筷,自力自理性强。

王帝聪的教育心得是:先教孩子自力自理,然后学会关心周遭环境并热爱生活,最后,孩子对生命的使命感就因运而生了。

帝聪认为,为人父母最重要的职责是:帮助孩子从日常生活细节中学会积极面对生活,培养他们日后自信地面对人生挑战 。

拍全家福时,孩子们不时响起铃铛般的笑声,太太展露着自然满足的笑容,一家七口洋溢着幸福和喜乐。很显然的,这就是超级爸爸王帝聪对家人无私奉献的最大回报了!


About the Author: The Dads for Life Resource Team comprises local content writers and experts, including psychologists, counsellors, educators and social service professionals, dedicated to developing useful resources for dads.


First published on 23-01-2013

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2 replies

  1. Happened to chance upon his news today. Always like his voice on air. Ya, is really a surprise to know that he is a father of five children. Living environment may look a bit messy with their five darlings. However the family looks happy. All the best to former 958 DJ and blessing to his family.

  2. 帝聪. 好久沒您的消息,您到底去了那里?

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