In Home Alone 1 to 3, we wrote how Dads can still participate in their children’s care when they need to be away, whether for a few hours or longer periods of time. You can plan for Caregivers to work on different activities with your child. At the same time, you can ask that the Caregiver works with you to positively reinforce your child’s behaviours such a being courteous and hardworking.
Values and Behaviours:
- Over a weekend, work with your kids to make posters of around values that you want your children to embrace.
- List three “easy-to-spot actions” in each poster. Ensure the posters are placed in a visible location.
- Empower the Caregiver to give out the rewards when he or she notices any of the actions in your child.
- He or she can give stickers or points that the children can eventually exchange with you for treats, outings, and time on the Internet.
For example, if you want your child to be courteous, get the Caregiver to give out rewards for saying “please”, “thank you”, and “excuse me”. If you want your child to be hardworking, reward him if he finishes his homework on time, cleans up after playing, helps out in a household chore he does not like.
Train up a child in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~ A Jewish Proverb ~