Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters -10 Secrets Every Father Should Know. The writer opens with a statistical overview of the life of American kids and the dangers they face from the time they enter school.
With such startling statistics, it is perhaps understandable that Dr Meg Meeker, a pediatrician for over 20 years, maintains a strong urging throughout the book that a father needs to stand as a benevolent figure of authority in his daughter’s life. That is, a father needs to be the person his daughter can connect with, look to for guidance, and not be afraid to return to, even when she makes a mistake.
Yes, the statistics are of American origin, but that does not make the book any less relevant for the average Singaporean father. Girls here are significantly influenced by the same issues. Some of the situations mentioned could happen in any Singaporean girl’s class. Therefore, it is probably wise for dads to sit up and take note.
This is a “Dad Take Charge” type of book. The reason is that if dads do not step into their daughters’ lives, imparting clear values such as courage, humility and integrity, their impressionable young girls will be bombarded with messages by their friends, the media and through popular culture. The book includes very practical steps that fathers can take to understand their daughters and remain involved in their lives.
The book celebrates the role of a father in his daughter’s life. A father has natural instincts to protect his daughter, and he should do so at every stage of her growing years. She will, in turn, live with the clear message that she is of value and therefore be endowed with confidence and self-esteem.
Every chapter is worth reading even if there are parts in the book that do not gel with one’s own notions on modesty, sexuality, femininity, manhood, fatherhood, and family life. Remember where Dr Meeker is coming from: many heartaches experienced by girls can be avoided, if their dads simply are more involved.
Download Chapter One of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters for free.
The book is also available at Singapore’s Public Libraries.
1. Meeker, Meg, M.D., (2007) Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Ballantine Books, New York, USA
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First published on 10-01-2012.
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