It makes much sense that Dr John Ng, Honorary President of Eagles Mediation and Counselling Centre (EMCC), wrote Managing Parent-teen Conflict in two versions -one for parents and the other for teens. Both booklets deal with the same issue, beginning with who you are -either a father or a teen.
More importantly, they bring together a meeting of minds and hearts –that of fathers and teens.
On the cover of the parents’ version are several questions, the most important of which is: “Why Can’t We Get Along?” And, the booklet answers it well by getting you, as a dad, to consider:
a. Your perspective of conflict and how it affects the way you manage it.
b. The factors that lead to conflicts between you and your teenager.
c. What you can do to manage parent-teen conflict.
d. How to practise eight golden rules in managing parent-teen conflict.
Dr Ng, an expert in mediation and conflict management, as well as father of three teenage children, covers these topics in his characteristic logical, measured and pragmatic approach. He also keeps it real by saying that fathers will struggle to understand where their teens are coming from. As Dr Ng writes in the teen version of the booklet:
My 14-year-old daughter has to remind me often. “Remember, I am a teenager, not an adult!”
I have to constantly remind myself that my kids have as much pressure as adults today.
To attract teenage readers, their version is much more colourful, with plenty of visuals to get them thinking about how they relate to their parents. More significantly, it provides teens with ways to get to know their parents, and really love and respect them.
Contact EMCC at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like a copy.
About the Author: The Dads for Life Resource Team comprises local content writers and experts, including psychologists, counsellors, educators and social service professionals, dedicated to developing useful resources for dads.
First published on 24-08-2011.
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